Find a Therapist in California

You're unhappy and you're trying to do something about it. Anxiety is stressing you out. It can make you feel depressed and experience low self-esteem. You want to feel good about yourself and the direction you're taking in life. However, you may feel hopeless, helpless and alone. But you aren't! We can discover what's not working for you and find different ways of thinking that open up new possibilities. A shift in your perspective can make all the difference in the world. Therapy can help you gain a greater sense of freedom and joy.

Relationships can bring us the greatest joy and support, and the deepest pain and loneliness. We are wired to connect, but sometimes need support around how we connect with others. I support clients who are looking to heal themselves from childhood trauma, support current partner relationships, or just experience new ways of being in the world. I bring a trauma-informed approach to work with teens, individuals and couples experiencing loneliness, shame, anxiety, communication issues, self-criticism, depression, burnout and cPTSD.

I have worked with a wide variety of people over the years ranging from children, to teens, to adults. I have done groups, individual, couples, and family work, and I enjoy all of it! My clients come to see me with issues that range from everyday life obstacles and stress to serious anxiety, depression, and trauma. I believe everyone's struggles are valid and everyone's efforts to change their life for the better should be honored and supported. I have had the privilege of helping many wonderful people over the course of my career and I consider myself lucky to work in a field that allows me to help, heal, and support.

If you're feeling stuck and experiencing symptoms, trauma may be to blame. Underneath most human issues I usually find trauma beneath the surface. As a certified EMDR therapist, I am highly trained to treat and heal trauma. Even if addiction is the issue, or food issues, or depression, treating the unresolved little t (smaller incidents) and big T (more obvious traumatic experiences) helps alleviate the present day symptoms. EMDR works quicker by targeting the roots of issues and helping to free the body of trauma that has been stuck for weeks, months or even years.

I use forty years of experience as a professional therapist to resolve your individual or family problems. Using cutting edge therapies in a solution oriented approach, I can identify and eliminates those blocks to personal action needed to improve your situation, expand relationships, and enhance your performance. I published a book about recovering from traumatic stress. Heal Traumatic Stress NOW, Complete Recovery with Thought Field Therapy - is available on my website, www.rlbray.com.

Is it difficult to relax and enjoy your life? Are you long on tasks but short on soulful connection? It's one thing to acknowledge you need a change, but it's another thing to know where to begin. That's why I'm here. I help people suffering with stress, burnout, and trauma to identify patterns of behavior that prevent their wellbeing and create room for a new way of living: one that centers your authentic joy, inner peace, and unique purpose.

My approach to psychotherapy is to explore and process patterned thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that inhibit well-being. I believe that through exploring how our past affects our present and looking at the patterns we tend to repeat, one can gain insight and a sense of empowerment over their current circumstances in order to heal, grow and transform. I have over 20 years of experience working with adults, teens, and children regarding a number of issues including anxiety, depression, foster care & adoption, sexual abuse, codependency, drug and alcohol abuse, relationship counseling, family counseling and faith based counseling.

Life comes with challenges. Whether you are faced with difficulties in managing stress, anxiety, depression, and/or wish to overcome trauma, seeking therapeutic assistance is a healthy step toward evolving into a better version of yourself.

Today’s world is challenged in many ways. And, challenges come from many directions. Family disruptions, parent-child conflicts, difficult co-workers, supervisors who don't know how to lead people, and managers who put their own interests or the financial needs of the organization first before their people. This kind of behavior can result in strained relationships, distracted attention, tense interactions, increased absenteeism, and much more. It can come at the hands of people low in 'emotional intelligence' like bullies, micro-managers, and disengaged leaders. Is this your life, family or work? It's time to do something.

Do you feel tired of old patterns that inhibit your fun and connection in life? Would you like to have tools to cope with your anxieties and stresses and make the changes you desire? I have over 35 years experience in helping individuals bring attention to their issues to gain insight and acceptance--allowing for change and growth. My first session with individuals/couples will help you clarify your needs and create goals for our work. With couples, I will help you each take responsibility for your own issues; supporting better communication, more enjoyment and greater connectedness in your partnership.