What is my boundary style?
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WEAK BOUNDARIES OR NO BOUNDARIES:
I put the needs and wants of others before my own.
I agree with others to avoid conflict.
I find myself unable to say “no” to things.
I’m afraid to say “no” out of fear or guilt.
I allow others to speak for me
I find myself accepting poor treatment from others.
I find myself doing more than my share of participating in the relationship.
I try to “fix” other people and their problems.
I attempt to control other people.
I don’t trust myself or others.
I’m able to set personal boundaries that protect my body, my energy, my time, and my other resources, without feeling guilty, fearful, or stressed.
I can comfortably express my true feelings regardless if they are seen as negative or positive.
I’m comfortable with other people expressing their emotions.
I’m able to respect others for who they are and do not attempt to change or “fix” them.
I understand that conflict is a natural part of intimate relationships and even though it may not be enjoyable.
I’m willing to end a relationship rather than continue to allow the other person to hurt me.
I respect other people’s feelings, needs, and preferences, and don’t take them on as my own.
I’m able to make my own decisions and look out for my interests while taking others perspectives into account.
I’m not afraid to disappoint or anger others by stating my opinion.
I take responsibility for my own feelings while others can take responsibility for their own feelings.
I feel frustrated when people don’t view things the same way that I do.
I have a tough time acknowledging and expressing my feelings and rarely consider the feelings of others.
I often use anger and/or intimidation to get my way.
I keep people at an emotional distance.
I am uncomfortable with physical contact unless I initiate it, and even then it needs to be on my terms.
I criticize others when they don’t do things according to my plan.
I refuse to “play” if things aren’t done according to my rules, plans, or desires.
I become very upset if anyone borrows something of mine, even if they ask first.
I always expect something in return for my help or generosity.
I infrequently invite people into my “space” (home, office, physical)
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